A long-distance relationship is less than ideal for most couples in love, but sometimes it simply cannot be avoided. There are ways that you can make a long-distance relationship work for you though, and one of those ways is to have long-distance relationship goals. Every couples’ distance relationship goals will probably look a little bit different, but here are ten long-distance relationship goals to help get you started.
Belief That The Relationship Can Work
One of the first relationship goals that you should have together is the belief that a long-distance relationship can work between the two of you. For a long-distance relationship to work you both need to have clear goals and boundaries of what is and is not acceptable, and you need to stick to it. Remember that your long-distance relationship is not forever, it is just for this season of your life as you work towards meeting your life goals so that you can be together in person later on.
Be Honest With Each Other
Long-distance relationships can naturally breed suspicion and even jealousy because you aren’t able to be together as often as you would like. Being secretive, or less than truthful can deepen these feelings of infidelity. One of your long-distance relationship goals should be to be completely honest with each other. The old saying “what you don’t know can’t hurt you” is not true, and being less than truthful may lead to a break-up.
For a long-distance relationship to work, you and your partner will need to sync up your schedules. Time zones and conflicting work and school schedules can make it difficult to find regular times to talk on the phone or have a video chat but you must do so. One of your long-distance relationship goals has to be setting up times to talk on the phone or video chat and not just sending texts.
Communication Is Everything
The only way for a long-distance relationship to work is for you to be in contact with each other. Fortunately communicating these days is so much easier than back in the days of snail mail. You can text, video chat, email, and call anytime you like now, and most of us always have a cell phone in our pocket.
Virtual Date Night
You might not be living in the same town but that doesn’t mean that you can’t schedule a virtual date night so that the two of you can spend some quality time together. Schedule a time, order up your favorite take-out, and watch a movie or favorite TV show together while you video chat. Having a virtual date night once every couple of weeks at least should be one of your long-distance relationship goals.
Long-distance relationships can be easier to take if you know that you have an in-person visit coming up soon to look forward to. You may not be able to spend more than a weekend together but having time together to reconnect physically and emotionally in person can help to strengthen your relationship.
If you usually reply to a text within a set period of time or always answer the phone, then you should continue to do so. Otherwise, paranoia can creep in and one or both of you may suspect the other of cheating or no longer being committed to the relationship even if that is completely untrue. If for some reason you can’t respond as you normally would make sure to check in and explain as soon as possible.
One of your long-distance relationship goals should be to be surprising to each other. Send an “I love you” text at a random time of day, mail a “just thinking about you” card, or a small thoughtful gift. Have their favorite pizza or flowers delivered when you know they have had a tough week at work. Having items from each other around can make it seem as though you aren’t so far apart.
Don’t Fight And Text
You and your significant other will likely have a fight or disagreement at some point, and when you do you must talk to each other. Do not try to fight or resolve an issue with your partner through text or email. Words on a screen can not convey tone and trying to resolve a conflict without the benefit of tone can make the problem worse.
One of your long-distance relationship goals should be to remain positive about your relationship and your life. Sure being apart from your love can be sad sometimes, but on the whole, you need to stay as positive as you can or the relationship won’t work.
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship before? If you find yourself in a long-distance relationship, don’t despair, just use these long-distance relationship goals to keep you on track. Do you have any other long-distance relationship goals to share?